New Years Resolutions That Stick

If you are anything like me, you have made the same New Year resolutions over and over again. If you are even more like me, one year, you declared you weren’t making new year resolutions!  The truth is, I really do want to change. It is just so hard to make those changes stick.  The […]

5 Tips For Wellness

Wellness is something that we hear doctors, therapists, the media, our parents, really everyone talk about. We know it is important, but we get conflicting advice constantly depending on the agenda of the giver of the advice. How do we really know what is important for us as far as wellness and what isn’t? Here’s […]

A Letter To Our Clients

I want to remind you that you do have the power to make many choices for yourself and in your own life.  I say this knowing that having control over our choices is the thing that we all desire the most. In light of choices that are being made for us, I want to say […]

Trauma & The Brain

Here’s what happens in our brain when we are afraid. We are no longer regulated and we are not processing in our thinking brain. We are just reacting, like horses when they get afraid and run away before they stop to see what the potential danger is. Here’s the problem. Trauma creates neuropathways in our […]

Mental Health & Choice

Mental health is like physical health. It takes practice to make yourself healthier. You can’t eat potato chips and chocolate all day and expect to have your body be physically healthy. You can’t sit on the couch all day and expect your body to be fit. Likewise you can’t just sit there and expect your […]

Practice Makes Presence

At the end of last year, our team discussed that I would start blogging again since we’ve hired new staff and allegedly I should have the time. It is now the end of March and I haven’t had the time. But that is precisely the point, and feels like a really good starting place for […]

Endings and Beginnings

There is a book called The Five Things We Cannot Change by David Richo. The author adeptly discusses five truths about being human, which are things we often struggle to accept. These five things are: (1) everything changes and ends, (2) things do not always go according to plan, (3) life is not always fair, […]


The connection between love and pain is deep. In fact, you can’t have one without the other. They are the opposite sides of the same experience. When we love, we feel the pain of leaving, of betrayal, of loss, of death. If we aren’t willing to endure the pain, we don’t get to experience love, […]